ebay – Proust – rubber – and my first professional engagement

by | Apr 15, 2010

I’ve been on such an ebay binge lately… it’s usually not really my thing – though I’ve picked up a few pieces here and there in the past – including my super-awesome-perfect-fit leather pants from Northbound Leather which I got for peanuts years ago…

I’ve so enjoyed all the packages coming in 😉

Most of it is vanilla wear… because I usually seem to have a vast array of fetish gear, one nice pair of jeans, martial arts gear or jammies as clothing options 😉 oh and either skyscraper Louboutins or some comfy sneakers to go on my feet.

So now I have some other options! Though wearing my new vintage pink linen dress I think it would be fabulous for domestic discipline sessions – I might have to take a couple of photos wearing it while brandishing a wooden spoon to give everyone a feeling of what I mean.

Also have scored some shoes – two pairs of Patrick Cox heels – who’s now v. hard to get in Sydney… and some adorable cream Ferragamo shoes with a small heel and a little bow on the front… they’re cute – and remind me of my female relations as I think my mother, grandmother and aunts had similar shoes 😉 I always used to resist them as “nanna shoes” but now I’m embracing my cultural heritage (North Shore Princess) and have a pair of my own 😉 Another v. domestic look for naughty boys…

And in non-ebay purchases I *finally* had new Simon O catsuit arrive today! Huzzah!!! I ordered both that and a beautiful outfit from Breathless in London the last week of January… the Breathless pieces were delivered quite quickly (well by that I mean 6 or 7 weeks) but I was waiting waiting waiting for the other one… but huzzah – after a couple of courier hiccups it arrived today! So shiny – so green! A big change from the usual black with black that one associates with rubber 🙂

The Breathless outfit is almost all black – but with gold trim – which might remind people of my very first fetish outfit. My sub/boyfriend gave me a custom rubber gown from Rubber Baroness (the Sydney not the NY one) back in the mid-90’s a year or two after I first got “officially” involved in BDSM. It was a halter neck, full length gown black with these amazing old gold panels on the front and the inverted fishtail at the back… A couture piece she even did a toile in a different colour to make sure the fit and construction would work.

Such a beautiful dress – my Grandmother (who was a big FemDomme influence on me) loved it to her total surprise. She imagined a “rubber dress” being – well – like the sex shop versions that come in a box – short, tight and cheap… when she saw this gown on she fell in love, thought it was elegant and glamorous.

I wore the dress to my first ever professional Domme engagement – 10 years ago! Mistress Amanda from Salon Kittys advertised on a mailing list I was on, looking for experienced Mistresses to join Salon Kittys. I had recently left working in an international PR consultancy to take one of the accounts (which they were resigning due to a conflict of interest with a much bigger fish) with me… small business cash flow and all that I decided to email her and see if I’d be of interest to SK’s.

Anyway – I told Mistress Amanda that I was an experienced Top as I’d been playing in my personal life for some time – but I wasn’t an experienced Mistress as I knew that to be a ProDomme is a very different thing… Which by total chance on my part was just the right tone to take 😉 as there tend to be a lot of lifestyle ladies who think they know a lot – but can often come adrift at having a breadth of knowledge in a professional context….

So she gave me an interview – which I treated like any other interview and attended wearing a beautiful navy Yohji Yamamoto suit with an ankle length skirt. I think I might have just come from a meeting in North Sydney beforehand. Mistress Amanda agreed to give me a trial as an apprentice Mistress… and my very first experience was attending one of the famous Salon Kitty’s Mistress parties!

I turned up in the floor length latex gown – and immediately found a friend – as Mistress Serena took me under her wing. She asked a poor helpless sub if he took discipline – and in the face of the two of us he happily complied and was the recipient of my first professional caning! Lucky that was my original favourite activities I’d been doing in my personal life so I acquitted myself admirably 😉 and proceeded to have one of the most fun nights of my life with an array of subs lined up for me to play with! Mistress Serena is still one of my best friends in all the world and even though she doesn’t take sessions at the moment – I see her often and yes – she’s still totally glamorous and into her fabulous rubber!

Mistress Amanda must have had a good report on me – as she got me to come in the next week to start my shifts as a new apprentice Mistress – though I was considered to already be up to SK standard on discipline 😉 and just had to focus on learning all the other activities; bondage, cbt, crossdressing etc etc… though the most important thing of all is the one you never see a class on – how to structure and run a session!

I nearly fell over with shock when the receptionist gave me an envelope with my “party money” – it made the crazy concept really sink home for me – I can play and have fun and there are wonderful people who’ll subsidise this for me 😉

though in the years prior when I was purely “lifestyle” I didn’t get to have nearly as much fun – or acquire a tiny percentage of the outfits and toys that I now totally take for granted!


which brings me back to new outfits – one of which is the same colour scheme as my first fetish diva gown….

A bit like Proust and the madeleines 😉 but in a non-literary fetish version where the smell of the latex brought all the memories rolling back. Just be grateful I’m professionally incapable of writing anything over 1000 words after all those years of press releases!